Update!

Hello everyone! I apologize for the long absence. I was recovering from losing my son and trying to finish my book Dating While Disabled, which I am proud to say it will be out February 14th 2017!

Here is a new interview I gave about autism and dating and about my book!

http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/2016/12/05/a-new-spin-on-autism-answers-dating-for-autism-and-other-differentabilities/

 

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Please Sign This Petition.

I made a petition for hospitals and surgery centers to be required to video each procedure or surgery. This would significantly lower malpractice claims and it helps both parties. You are allowed 1 year to file a malpractice case anyway, so they would only have to keep the video on file for the year.

http://www.petition2congress.com/19872/we-are-not-your-guinea-pigs/

https://www.change.org/p/cheryl-grossman-for-all-hospitals-and-surgery-centers-to-video-each-procedure-or-surgery?recruiter=528797357&utm_source=share_for_starters&utm_medium=copyLink

My Spine Surgeon Asked Me To Abort My Child

My spine surgeon asked me to have an abortion, because I was scheduled to have an expensive surgery.

I met my spine surgeon, Atiq Durrani in the summer of 2008, I previously had 4 failed spinal fusion’s in my lower back and I was desperate for the pain to stop. He probably could sense my desperation and in his sick mind he knew I would agree to any surgery if he told me I would be pain free. And he did promise the world and all the pretty flowers and butterflies that would come with it.

I was 19 years old when I had my first spinal fusion surgery. I went to the only spine surgeon I knew because a friend’s mom worked with him. I had my first surgery in the fall of 2002 and it was supposed to have gone flawless, but I still had pain afterwards. I was accused of being a hypochondriac, which I was used to at this point. I had Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, a connective tissue disorder affecting the collagen. Collagen is the glue that holds the body together, such as your eyes, bones, joints, disks, organs, ligaments, tendons. But I wasn’t diagnosed until 2008, so I had had a lot of surgeries correcting what my body was doing naturally, which was to hyper-extend. I can dislocated every joint in my body easily because of my EDS.

I saw another spine surgeon after I was annoyed with the other doctor and this surgeon said that the other surgeon should have taken out the disk on top of the S1-L5 as well, which was the L5-L4, so I scheduled surgery and once I woke up I was told my old surgery also hadn’t fused. That was the first failed fusion, there would be 3 more failed fusion’s in my lumbar spine. I would find out later that having EDS will affect my spinal fusion and most of the time they do not fuse on their own because of the constant hyper-extension our body does. After two more failed fusions, I finally asked my EDS doctor for help and he highly recommended Atiq Durrani, he called him a pioneer for EDSers and their bones/joints.

When I met Dr Durrani, I scheduled my first spine surgery with him the same day. My first surgery would take place at the end of November 2008. A couple of weeks before my surgery, his nurse called me to tell me, my surgery had to be moved to December because my spine surgeon had to go to Saudi Arabia, because a prince fell off his camel and needed surgery. Now, at 24 this seemed incredibly reasonable to me since he was from Pakistan and he called himself the Prince of Pakistan. He has a classic case of grandiose delusions. This was my first clue that he wasn’t who he said he was, but I believed his scam.

After that surgery, I felt great. I knew in my heart that this surgery worked. However, I had never asked what he would be using to fuse my vertebrates together. My previous doctors used the bone from my hip, but I never thought to ask Durrani what he would use. I was very ignorant on this subject and all I wanted was to be pain-free. Which happens to a lot of other people too. They are in so much pain that they think a referral from another doctor is legit, I was referred by a doctor I thought I trusted, but now I know I shouldn’t have.

Because I have EDS, I was a prime candidate for him to suggest more surgeries, which of course meant more money for him. My next visit, I told him my neck had been bothering me and I wanted an MRI to see what was happening. Once the results were in, he suggested more surgery, but this time he said he would take out the C5-C6 and then in a year he would remove the C6-C7, this was his tactic with me. He knew he would get away with making me go under anesthesia so many times. I had three more surgeries for a total of 5, he went back into my lumbar spine to correct a level and to fuse a new one, he also went back into my cervical spine twice, which one surgery was to fuse my C4-C5 and C6-C7 and then to fuse my C1-C2. My last surgery was April 22, 2013, I was one of the last people to have a surgery performed by him at West Chester Hospital.

This is how a surgeon can screw you over fairly easy without your knowledge and with the hospital encouraging it all the while because they are making more money. My surgeon Atiq Durrani worked at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital first, he was subsequently fired from there for having sex with his physician assistant and allowing his first year fellows finish his surgeries. Remember the Prince of Saudi Arabia falling off his camel? Well, in reality he was fired and had to wait for his surgical privileges to be active at a new hospital before he could do my surgery, but he came up with this lie to make himself look bigger than he was. And instead of marking his license for being fired, Cincinnati Children’s Hospital covered why he left. They claim he left because of contracts, but that was a lie. Had they done the right thing this domino effect would never have happened.

Without my knowledge, he fused my vertebrates with a stem cell growth protein called BMP-2, I was never advised he would use this, nor was I in a case study. With regards to my neck surgeries he decided to use another stem cell growth protein called Puregen. This was not even FDA approved for use in animals, let alone humans. He also used the BMP-2 product in my neck, which was strictly forbidden by the FDA, it is only approved for the lumbar spine. And would use a third called Trinity in my final surgery with him which was my C1-C2 fusion.

But because these products are new and Puregen hasn’t been researched and approved by the FDA, we only know that it causes swallowing problems, increases your chance of cancer, and causes infertility. Had I known all of these things ahead of time, I wouldn’t have allowed Dr Durrani to perform one surgery on me, let alone 5. The last hospital he worked at which was West Chester Hospital, a smaller branch of University of Cincinnati, actually would stock the operating rooms with Puregen for other surgeons to use it. My surgeon even created a distribution company to funnel in this crap. Had he not been caught, he would have had a hospital wing in his honor for performing the most spine surgeries in Ohio and they allowed him 2-3 operating rooms at a time, which was completely unheard of!

In the spring of 2012, I had just healed from another surgery and my thoracic spine had been hurting me for months. I had another MRI this time on my thoracic and it showed herniated disks at T1-T3, but he said I needed to have surgery on T3-T5, which showed no major issues on my reports. I scheduled the surgery for July 2012. I became pregnant in June. I told him that I was pregnant his response was that I shouldn’t have the baby because my spine is so bad that it would snap in two. Knowing I was about to have thoracic spine surgery and my family doctor had found cancer cells in my uterus, I aborted my child, but I did not have the surgery. In his reports of this canceled surgery he leaves everything blank on why I didn’t have the surgery. Shocker.

In August 2013, Atiq Durrani was arrested on 46 felony counts of medicare fraud, prescription fraud, allowing another surgeon to perform his surgeries using his name and performing unnecessary surgeries, he was facing many years in prison. He fled the country in December 2013 back to Pakistan. I messaged him after I heard that he had fled, he messaged me back fairly quickly and told me to pray for his family. That is when I knew he was guilty. You do not run across the world if you are innocent. That’s when I contacted an attorney who had previous Durrani patients already and was suing the hospitals that Durrani worked for and suing the manufacturers of BMP-2 and Puregen.

I found out what Durrani really did to me after that. I am thankful I didn’t have thoracic spine surgery with him, he has butchered a lot of people and some have died and others have committed suicide because of the pain. I wrote this article to show you that we have no idea who our doctors are, I can’t say for certain that my surgeon even went to medical school since the one he lists says he is not an alumni. The medical world has changed, we used to become doctors to help and to save the world, now they do it for the money and the benefits of being called a doctor, it has become so ego-based. I know there are still some good doctors out there, but you have to dig for these anomalies.

In Ohio, I have seen over 10 surgeons all refusing to help me and I am even in Columbus, which is 2 hours from Cincinnati. What Durrani left in his wake is my cervical spine that isn’t fused at C1-C2, my C4-C7 is not completely fused, my thoracic spine T1-T3 is herinated and impinged on my spinal cord because of my spine breaking due to bone overgrowth from C4-C7 due to the BMP-2 and Puregen use. With BMP-2 and/or Puregen there is no way to remove it from your body, so I will be forever looking over my shoulder for the next ball to drop.

Atiq Durrani is in Lahore, Pakistan performing surgeries on his own people and calls himself a medical diplomat for the United States, he can’t even step foot on our soil, but is a diplomat? All the while, his girlfriend an American from Ohio is flying back and forth bringing him medical supplies that he cannot obtain in Pakistan. Sounds like besides having to live in Pakistan, he’s made out like a bandit. We cannot extradite him due to the iffy extradition laws we have with Pakistan.

I think about my decision to have an abortion daily, terminating a pregnancy is never an easy decision regardless of the reason. It took me a couple of years, but I know that because of all that I was dealing with at the time of my pregnancy that it was the smartest thing to do. If I could go back and change that decision, I wouldn’t because of the stress and pain I was in. Having a child is supposed to be a happy time and I was not dealing with happy circumstances, nor was I ready to deal with the father for the rest of my life. Everything happens for a reason. I know the next time I am pregnant it will be under better circumstances and with a better result.

Currently, I am trying to get Ohio to make it mandatory that every doctor or surgeon videotape’s each and every surgery and procedure. This will help for malpractice claims for both sides of the fence. Our legal system is bogged down enough, so this will make it easier and harder for malpractice claims to be filed. It would be a win/win. I wrote about my surgeon and how to protect yourself from your doctors, which is out next year called, Terrorism in America’s Hospitals. Learn how to protect yourself and research as much as you can about your doctor and the procedure before you agree to allow a total stranger to change how your body will function. You will have to deal with the effects longer than it takes for him to spend the money from each surgery and/or procedure that they performed on you.

Dating While Disabled

I’m happy to announce my book, Dating While Disabled will be out soon! It was slated for October 25th, but due to higher demands, I’m releasing it in June! Stay tuned for launch dates in the coming month!

Dating While Disabled will cover all of your dating needs! It will go over everything you and your partner or potential partner will need to know about dating someone with an illness!

Stay Tuned! Happy Dating!!

Secrets To Drama-Free Love Was Published Today!

Hello everyone! I am happy to say that my first book that I cowrote, Secrets To Drama-Free Love was published today and is available on Amazon.com. My chapter in the book is titled, The Secret To Not Allowing Life Events Define Who You Are And Where You Are Going. In my chapter I discuss how I dealt with the many people in my life who thought because I look completely normal and healthy, that I was lying about my illness or that I was exaggerating the extent of my illness.

So many people have something in their lives that they wish they can change, but since we are not capable to turn the clocks back to make that change, we need to learn how to accept our past decisions, our failures, our white lies, or anything else that affected our lives in a negative way due to our past decisions. Since we can not change these past events, I will show you how to move forward and get everything you wanted. Everyone is given a purpose and it is up to you to figure out what that purpose is for you and to implement it. It doesn’t matter how far behind you are, due to life moving forward with or without you. Even if your personal timeline isn’t achieved, you will still be happy and you will not care that it took you longer than you preferred. You especially will not care about that timeframe, especially once your goal is accomplished.

 

http://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Drama-Free-Love-Lorii-Abela/dp/0997260130/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1457702658&sr=8-1&keywords=christy+goldstein

Why I Choose To Be Happy

 

You can choose your attitude, but only you can do it, no one else has the power except you.

As most know, I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, when I was 25 years old. I have had 56 surgeries correcting what my body does naturally. In the beginning pre-diagnosis, I was having the bulk of my surgeries and each doctor’s visit was a new diagnosis and a new struggle I knew I would have once they put it out there, that I had something new another label. I am a firm believer that once you believe something to be true, it does become a truth. I try not to allow someone else to “label” me, that is my job and God’s job.

Between the doctors visits and medications they throw at you, I know better than anyone it is hard to shut your mind off from your illness and the constant reminders that you are ill. I was in that spot once too. I thought about my illness every waking moment. I would start conversations about it with random people at the grocery store, just to talk about it once more. I was a walking pity party! No one wanted to be around me because I was so negative and unhappy. I would tell friends I couldn’t do something even without knowing if that was true. I tricked myself into thinking my bed and tv was the extent of activity I could subject my body to. But, in reality, it wasn’t my body struggling with what was happening to it, it was my mind.

I literally stayed in my bed for over 7 years, having surgery after surgery, being on the highest pain medications they could give me, and taking them around the clock. My life was revolved around my illness and the pain I felt. I was consumed with my surgeries and why they weren’t working. Had I stopped and looked at the past surgeries objectively, I would have realized a lot sooner that the surgeries were hurting me, more than helping. I lost my friends, I was on disability from my job more often than not. I had no love prospects and I didn’t even think I could find someone who could handle my depressing life. I mean I wouldn’t have even dated me had I been the guy. I was completely depressed and consumed with all things pain and surgery. I didn’t go outside unless I had a doctor appointment. And I definitely didn’t socialize with anyone but my doctors. I was literally just existing and that isn’t the life I was supposed to live or anyone for that matter.

It’s now 2016, I see 2 doctors, versus the 14 I saw for 10 plus years. I am active everyday. I walk on the treadmill every day and I am dating and enjoying what my life consists of and the pain, fatigue and dislocations that I still suffer from are such a small part of it. Those things are going to happen whether I am happy or depressed, but I would rather face these obstacles with a happy heart than a depressed one. It takes work on your part and it won’t change overnight, but if you retrain your mind you will be able to have your life back, just like I was able to.

I started thinking about the things I did before I had any of the surgeries. I always loved to read, but I never actually sat down and wrote anything outside of a paper for a class. Writing and the treadmill have become my happy place and my complete release from the stress and the constant pain. It is true what they say, that working out boosts your endorphins and releases serotonin in the brain which is just like taking an anti depressant, but through a natural way versus adding another medication. I am still in pain, but I force my mind to think of other things. If I am having a bad day and I lay down in my bed, the pain intensifies because your mind is 100% focused on the pain and your mind can trick you to make it appear worse than it actually is.

Refocusing my mind and writing down my goals and my desires for my life have been a God-send. Yes, I still have depressing thoughts sometimes, this technique isn’t a cure-all, but it will help immensely once you start writing it down every single day in a journal. Write down who you wanted to be when you were dreaming and imagining as a child. What were your goals? What did you want to be before society pressures changed it? Live the life you always wanted to and obtain the life you wanted before the societal pressures, family pressures, illness and pain came into your life. You can obtain that life, it will take a lot of work, but it will always be worth it. Choose to be happy and yes it is a choice!